Courtship: Thing of the past or tool for the future?
Once upon a time, in the “pre-ipodic” era, charming debonair princes would gallantly display chivalry and bravery to win the affection of graceful damsels whom they desired to court under parental approval and surveillance of course! (Crickets in the background). Yeah, fast forward to about 10 minutes ago; welcome to the modern technology age, where head bobbing youths, like myself, mostly determine mate eligibility from e-compatibility tests, emotional inklings, and let’s not forget Facebook profiles. Today, those princes would be clowned as punks, and the damsels? You got it, high-maintenance drama queens.
Why are times so topsy-turvy? Whatever happened to good old courtship, which ensured lovebirds a conducive environment to effectively communicate and learn about each other without having to succumb to beckoning hormonal distractions?
Is courtship a thing of the past or a tool for the future? ,
To address a host of relationship issues, Relationships Expert, Mrs. Olu Adetutu of Greater Tomorrows, Inc. hosts a series of interactive conference call sessions. On March 29th, courtship was discussed; I dialed in and got a much needed dose of reality as Mrs. Adetutu delivered the truth with accuracy and scriptural support.
Courtship, she said, is the quintessential paths that can land you a spot at the coveted prime intersection of wedding avenue and happily-ever-after lane, if done the right way that is. During courtship, information on prospective mates is objectively gathered and scrutinized without fuzzy emotional biases.
Prov 24:5 says ‘a wise man is mightier than a strong man’ and 2nd Corinthians 6 :14 says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” So does it not make sense to gain wisdom and a good understanding of whether or not you and this Ms. Perfect are equally yoked aka compatible? Better yet it would be behooving to know if Mr. Right is a believer in, say marital fidelity… hey you never know. It is good practice not to assume, as that might lead to frequent jogs down Surprise Street just to catch up with your partner’s reality. To avoid that emotional turmoil,
Critical areas Mrs. Adetutu advises need careful evaluation are:
· Background
· Religion and spirituality
· Sexuality and Affection
· Temperament and character
· Financial Responsibility
· Roles and spousal expectations
· Others
Again the surprise street marathon awaits many unprepared sprinters. So whether or not you are a relic of the pre-ipodic age, the fact is knowledge about your relationships is a powerful tool. Mrs. Adetutu’s passion is to help people make better choices, attract compatible mates and have long lasting fulfilled lives. And to think I needed a MySpace page to attract compatible mates? So for the curious, interested or even skeptical souls; call in, listen to the archives, and leave a comment. I will listening in on the next call, April 19th, so till then be safe and thrive. ………..
Moyeen A .
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What can I do??? He has many things I desire but he was raised as a 7th Day Adventist Christian. He does not believe in the Holy Spirit and can not comprehend despite hours and hours of explanation. He's always in my prayers, and I feel like I can bring him closer to God.
ReplyDeleteShould I leave him or do I keep praying?? He has many of the qualities in my little journal and has adamant about raising his children when the time comes in the 7th Day Adventist Church
Any thots........ Praying Pamela
I was once in the same situation but he was a Jehovah Witness. I thought I could handle it even after reading up about them and all the controversies which he admitted were right. I was convinced it was not going to work when I started seeing him act towards the things I read about JW's. I had to let the relationship go not because I could not handle it but because we were discussing marriage and kids. He really did not mind how the kids would be raised but that would mean division in a home. I started asking myself questions like would i want to raise my kids with someone that does not share the same believe as me, is it worth the trouble of not being accepted by his family members? My answers were no and then I asked if he would ever stop being a JW, his reply was no and that was when I knew I had to let it go. 1cor 6:14 says do not be unequally yoked. In this case it would be being yoked with someone of a different believe as you. Keep praying and ask God to open your eyes.
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