Part I: Courtship: Thing of the past or tool for the future ?

Courtship: Thing of the past or tool for the future?

Once upon a time, in the “pre-ipodic” era, charming debonair princes would gallantly display chivalry and bravery to win the affection of graceful damsels whom they desired to court under parental approval and surveillance of course! (Crickets in the background). Yeah, fast forward to about 10 minutes ago; welcome to the modern technology age, where head bobbing youths, like myself, mostly determine mate eligibility from e-compatibility tests, emotional inklings, and let’s not forget Facebook profiles. Today, those princes would be clowned as punks, and the damsels? You got it, high-maintenance drama queens.

Why are times so topsy-turvy? Whatever happened to good old courtship, which ensured lovebirds a conducive environment to effectively communicate and learn about each other without having to succumb to beckoning hormonal distractions?

Is courtship a thing of the past or a tool for the future? ,

To address a host of relationship issues, Relationships Expert, Mrs. Olu Adetutu of Greater Tomorrows, Inc. hosts a series of interactive conference call sessions. On March 29th, courtship was discussed; I dialed in and got a much needed dose of reality as Mrs. Adetutu delivered the truth with accuracy and scriptural support.

Courtship, she said, is the quintessential paths that can land you a spot at the coveted prime intersection of wedding avenue and happily-ever-after lane, if done the right way that is. During courtship, information on prospective mates is objectively gathered and scrutinized without fuzzy emotional biases.

Prov 24:5 says ‘a wise man is mightier than a strong man’ and 2nd Corinthians 6 :14 says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” So does it not make sense to gain wisdom and a good understanding of whether or not you and this Ms. Perfect are equally yoked aka compatible? Better yet it would be behooving to know if Mr. Right is a believer in, say marital fidelity… hey you never know. It is good practice not to assume, as that might lead to frequent jogs down Surprise Street just to catch up with your partner’s reality. To avoid that emotional turmoil,

Critical areas Mrs. Adetutu advises need careful evaluation are:

· Background
· Religion and spirituality
· Sexuality and Affection
· Temperament and character
· Financial Responsibility
· Roles and spousal expectations
· Others

Again the surprise street marathon awaits many unprepared sprinters. So whether or not you are a relic of the pre-ipodic age, the fact is knowledge about your relationships is a powerful tool. Mrs. Adetutu’s passion is to help people make better choices, attract compatible mates and have long lasting fulfilled lives. And to think I needed a MySpace page to attract compatible mates? So for the curious, interested or even skeptical souls; call in, listen to the archives, and leave a comment. I will listening in on the next call, April 19th, so till then be safe and thrive. ………..
Moyeen A .

Love Vs Infatuation

Love vs. Infatuation

Summary of the last conference call (3/1/2008): Three types of love in the Greek language are

Eros – Erotic passionate love

Agape – God’s love, sacrificial love, unconditional love, non expectant love, love you show regardless of if the person deserves it or not

Phileo – best friend love, one of the most important types of love in any relationship.

If you cannot involve these three types of love in your relationship you need to back up and reevaluate.