First meeting of the year!!!!! This year we plan to alternate between a week day and Saturday. One call every other Saturday and a week day.
Hope you all are blessed and enjoying wonderful realationships. We need some people on board who would like to help with the group. Service to the lord is never wasted. So join on board, if interested email oluconference@gmail.com.
NEXT CALL: Tuesday, Feb 23, 2010
THEME: Open call
TIME: 9:00pm -10:00pm EST
DIAL :605-475-4700
ACCESS CODE: 473068#
GROUP EMAIL ADDRESS: oluconference@gmail.com
PERSONAL EMAIL ADDRESS: Oluadetutu@hotmail.com
Thursday, February 11, 2010
Wednesday, December 9, 2009
Merry Chrismas
This will be the last conference call we will have for the year 2009 and it will be highlights of what we have covered so far this year. At the beginning of the year everyone was told to write a list of what we want God to do this year, have this list with you during the call. Come along with any question related to what we have discussed this year. Also any form of suggestion for the upcoming year is welcome.
Mrs Olu Adetutu and the Team of Friends of Olu Adetutu want to use this medium to thank you all for your support in making the conference calls what it has grown into today.
Please click on the link below and take the brief survey on the conference calls we have. Make your voice be heard!
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=ajpAN_2ffc82Us3drJ6HAmvQ_3d_3d
Mrs Olu Adetutu and the Team of Friends of Olu Adetutu want to use this medium to thank you all for your support in making the conference calls what it has grown into today.
Please click on the link below and take the brief survey on the conference calls we have. Make your voice be heard!
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.aspx?sm=ajpAN_2ffc82Us3drJ6HAmvQ_3d_3d
Friday, November 20, 2009
A Season of Thanksgiving
Tis the season to be thankful, grateful, appreciative, show gratitude, and to love.... Join us on the next conference call and be blessed
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Matters that Destroy Relationships/Marriages
Knowing yourself, who you are and not what you project or what people believe you are is very important before committing yourself to another. The number one cause of arguments in relationships and marriages is MONEY.
Most of how we handle finances are learned from our parents, peers and everything around us. Everyone has their style or approach of thinking about ways to handle their finances; some prefer having joint accounts while some would rather separate accounts. In a marriage, it is whoever knows how to manage money best that should be in charge of how the money is being spent and there should be communication and total disclosure when it comes to finances. There are more responsibilities to be called the head of the house than just paying the bills or writing the check since what makes a marriage is not money. The way you spend money depends on your personality, values, and how you perceive life. There are people that are very frugal not necessarily tightfisted and there are others that can buy what is needed at the moment and what is not needed at the moment either because it is discounted or because they just have to shop. There are has to be a clear understanding about your personal finances before getting married because for most new couples their first argument is usually about money.
You have to have a plan and vision for your finances
Most of how we handle finances are learned from our parents, peers and everything around us. Everyone has their style or approach of thinking about ways to handle their finances; some prefer having joint accounts while some would rather separate accounts. In a marriage, it is whoever knows how to manage money best that should be in charge of how the money is being spent and there should be communication and total disclosure when it comes to finances. There are more responsibilities to be called the head of the house than just paying the bills or writing the check since what makes a marriage is not money. The way you spend money depends on your personality, values, and how you perceive life. There are people that are very frugal not necessarily tightfisted and there are others that can buy what is needed at the moment and what is not needed at the moment either because it is discounted or because they just have to shop. There are has to be a clear understanding about your personal finances before getting married because for most new couples their first argument is usually about money.
You have to have a plan and vision for your finances
Wednesday, June 3, 2009
Gender Roles: Thoughts of men and women about roles in Marriage
Just as men's gender roles have changed, women's gender roles have changed as well. Women can no longer be discriminated against at work places and are no longer expected to stay at home 24/7 cooking and baby sitting alone.
The next conference call will focus on what men think and expect in Marriage and vice versa.
What are your expectations about women and mens role in a marriage?
Are your expectations realistic?
Are they in line with Gods will?
Wednesday, May 20, 2009
The Dating Game
Mrs Olu Adetutu will be in Atlanta next coming Saturday at RCCG Victory International Center (Mableton, GA) Presents "The Dating Game"
Guest Speaker: Mrs Olu Adetutu
Date & Time: Saturday, May 30th; 3-7PM
Address: 5228 Brookwood Drive, Mableton GA 30126
This is what you've been waiting for - an interactive session with other singles, an opportunity to get all your relationship questions answered. If you're in a relationship, desiring to get into one or right at the cusp of marriage, this event is for you. You don't want to miss it! For more info simply send an email to okougbo@gmail.com or call Bolaji at 404-668-8239.
Guest Speaker: Mrs Olu Adetutu
Date & Time: Saturday, May 30th; 3-7PM
Address: 5228 Brookwood Drive, Mableton GA 30126
This is what you've been waiting for - an interactive session with other singles, an opportunity to get all your relationship questions answered. If you're in a relationship, desiring to get into one or right at the cusp of marriage, this event is for you. You don't want to miss it! For more info simply send an email to okougbo@gmail.com or call Bolaji at 404-668-8239.
Wednesday, February 25, 2009
Q&A Session
The next call is going to focus on some issues and questions that some of you have brought up lately. Listed below are a sample of some of the questions that will be discussed. If you have a question you want answered you can send an email, post it on the blog anonymously, or via Facebook.
1. Is it advisable to marry out of the norm?
2. Is there only one person for me or can I miss the right one because of carelessness?
3. Trial and error relationships and is there such a thing as too much dating?
4. Going against my parents wish when it comes to marriage?
5. When is the right time to discuss about your intended's finances (credit score, student loans) and medical background (genotype, bloodgroup, parents medical condition that might probably affect him/her)?
6. Is it ever appropriate for a woman to approach a man or propose to a man?
1. Is it advisable to marry out of the norm?
2. Is there only one person for me or can I miss the right one because of carelessness?
3. Trial and error relationships and is there such a thing as too much dating?
4. Going against my parents wish when it comes to marriage?
5. When is the right time to discuss about your intended's finances (credit score, student loans) and medical background (genotype, bloodgroup, parents medical condition that might probably affect him/her)?
6. Is it ever appropriate for a woman to approach a man or propose to a man?
Sunday, February 1, 2009
What is your language of Love?
Five Languages of Love
1. Words of affirmation: one whose primary love language is affirmation needs to be reminded how much he or she is being loved and appreciated and constantly needs to be complimented. They feel loved and accepted by simply telling them I love the way that shoe looks on you.
2. Quality Time: Spending quality time together is what does it for some people. A guy watching his favorite football team play and the girl cooking in the kitchen but in the same house is not considered spending quality time together. Quality time is the both of you sharing your dreams, thoughts, problems, and anything you consider important together.
3. Gifts: Gift is not a payment for service, it is something you give with a total abandonment of self. Everyone loves gifts but it is not the ultimate for some while for others it shows how much they are being remembered. Special days for a person whose primary love language is gift always expects gifts and appreciate them more than spending time with them or affirming your love to them. Only give when appropriate, there can be inappropriate gifts or premature gifts.
4. Act of serving: This is when you do something for someone else that you don’t necessarily enjoy doing. It is doing selflessly when not being asked but knowing it would put a smile on that person's face.
5. Physical touch: This should not be in a sexual or evasive way. Holding hands, hugging, tapping one on the shoulder can make or break a relationship. If your intended does not have a primary language of physical touch you might feel rejected.
Most of us have a primary language; one of these five will be dominant. You need to know how to learn the other person’s language and know how to speak your own language. Your language of love can change overtime because our needs to change as we grow.
To take the Five Languages of Love quiz, go to the following link:
http://edified.org/myspace/lovelanguage
It takes a few minutes and gives you a starting point!
1. Words of affirmation: one whose primary love language is affirmation needs to be reminded how much he or she is being loved and appreciated and constantly needs to be complimented. They feel loved and accepted by simply telling them I love the way that shoe looks on you.
2. Quality Time: Spending quality time together is what does it for some people. A guy watching his favorite football team play and the girl cooking in the kitchen but in the same house is not considered spending quality time together. Quality time is the both of you sharing your dreams, thoughts, problems, and anything you consider important together.
3. Gifts: Gift is not a payment for service, it is something you give with a total abandonment of self. Everyone loves gifts but it is not the ultimate for some while for others it shows how much they are being remembered. Special days for a person whose primary love language is gift always expects gifts and appreciate them more than spending time with them or affirming your love to them. Only give when appropriate, there can be inappropriate gifts or premature gifts.
4. Act of serving: This is when you do something for someone else that you don’t necessarily enjoy doing. It is doing selflessly when not being asked but knowing it would put a smile on that person's face.
5. Physical touch: This should not be in a sexual or evasive way. Holding hands, hugging, tapping one on the shoulder can make or break a relationship. If your intended does not have a primary language of physical touch you might feel rejected.
Most of us have a primary language; one of these five will be dominant. You need to know how to learn the other person’s language and know how to speak your own language. Your language of love can change overtime because our needs to change as we grow.
To take the Five Languages of Love quiz, go to the following link:
http://edified.org/myspace/lovelanguage
It takes a few minutes and gives you a starting point!
Saturday, January 17, 2009
New Year, New Hope, and New Possibilities
Prepare yourself to be a blessing unto others this year; don't only look for what you can get out of others but what you can give and how you can be useful. The importance of making the right decision cannot be over emphasized in choosing a soul mate. You have to know what you want and what you are looking for so you can identify it when it comes your way. God will help you clarify things but you have to know what you desire as well. Eros (Erotic love), Phileo (best friend love), and Agape ( God and sacrificial love) are cords of three strands woven and intertwined to make a marriage; a marriage without these three kinds of love is no marriage, a marriage that is not balanced amongst these three is no marriage. Most relationships start out with erotic love which is acceptable but you have to be able to balance these three kinds of love into your relationship eventually.
You need to be able to identify how you receive love, some people have to be constantly complimented and reaffirmed about their partners love for them, for some it might be shopping or dinning together, it works differently for everyone but you have to know what works for you. Knowing how you receive love will help you understand how to effectively and selflessly give love.
Our task before the next call is:
- Write out what you want God to do for you this year in the area of your relationship and be specific.
- List the things you want in a spouse.
- List the things you do not want in a spouse and what you want God to keep away from you.
We will pray over these lists on every phone call. No matter where you are you cannot get weary because there is never a time too late for God.
Isaiah 40:31 says But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run and not be weary; and they shall walk and not faint.
Have something you want to share? Click on the link that says comments and post it.
Monday, December 8, 2008
Are you ready for Marraige?
Have you asked all the right questions?
Have you discussed important issues like finances, the background of your intended, sex, or whatever else might be important to you?
Do you want to get married now just because of the pressure your parents are putting on you or because most of your friends are married?
The last conference call for the year 2008 will focus on some questions to ask yourself and your intended to let you know if you are truly ready for marriage.
Have you discussed important issues like finances, the background of your intended, sex, or whatever else might be important to you?
Do you want to get married now just because of the pressure your parents are putting on you or because most of your friends are married?
The last conference call for the year 2008 will focus on some questions to ask yourself and your intended to let you know if you are truly ready for marriage.
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