Matters that Destroy Relationships/Marriages

Knowing yourself, who you are and not what you project or what people believe you are is very important before committing yourself to another. The number one cause of arguments in relationships and marriages is MONEY.
Most of how we handle finances are learned from our parents, peers and everything around us. Everyone has their style or approach of thinking about ways to handle their finances; some prefer having joint accounts while some would rather separate accounts. In a marriage, it is whoever knows how to manage money best that should be in charge of how the money is being spent and there should be communication and total disclosure when it comes to finances. There are more responsibilities to be called the head of the house than just paying the bills or writing the check since what makes a marriage is not money. The way you spend money depends on your personality, values, and how you perceive life. There are people that are very frugal not necessarily tightfisted and there are others that can buy what is needed at the moment and what is not needed at the moment either because it is discounted or because they just have to shop. There are has to be a clear understanding about your personal finances before getting married because for most new couples their first argument is usually about money.

You have to have a plan and vision for your finances